Wishing all a farewell

I have enjoyed this class and all that I have learned in it.  To all my classmates I have enjoyed reading all your discussions and blogs and I have learned a lot from each and everyone of you all.  I pray that everyone have a blessed year and continue to succeed in the rest of their classes.  If anyone wants to stay in contact just comment your information below and again thanks to everyone in the class.

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Team Building and Collaboration

In Tuckman’s Model the adjourning stage is the wrap up stage. The members of the group decides if they will end or begin another project, but before they do that they look back on their failures and accomplishments that occurred throughout the project (O’Hair, Wiemann, Mullin, and Teven, 2015). A group that I was in was a training group. We had a great time working together with minimal conflicts. It was a high-performing group because we had a lot to learn and go over. This type of group was the hardest to leave because everything was laid out and on point as far as the plans went. The best closing rituals I have saw was when everyone had to talk about each other and what they may have learned from them. As far as my colleagues in my Master’s Degree program I will adjourn like most of my class in college has been and that’s we just part ways. I don’t really establish relationships in college because I take mostly online and I don’t have time to. The ending stage is an important stage because it determines if the goals were accomplished and if you all may continue or part ways.

 

Reference

O’Hair, D., Wiemann, M., Mullin, D. I., & Teven, J.  (2015). Real communication (3rd. ed). New York: Bedford/St. Martin’s.

Conflict Resolution

A disagreement that I have had recently was with an old best friend of mine. I’m actually friends with her and her sister. So my old best friend was upset with me because when her sister passed I only texted her to give my condolences and check on her but I never called her. I called and texted her sister though. I tried to explain to her that I wasn’t sure if she would even accept my text let alone my call since we hadn’t talked in well over a year. She felt that I hurt her feelings because we had been friends for well over 30 years and she felt that I could have at least called. The thing is she hasn’t been the type of friend she should and I have given my all and then some and I got tired of it so I stop calling her because we stopped being best friend over 15 years ago due to her not liking my new friend who is my best friend currently. We had an unproductive conflict because nothing was solved. This type of conflict is when conflict is managed poorly and there is a negative impact on the individuals or the relationship (O’Hair, Wiemann, Mullin, and Teven, 2015). Once I read the readings for this week I realized I could have handled the situation better. I did apologize to my friend for not calling her. I can be obliging on this conflict because she is a person that will not let this end regardless of the fact that I apologized and explained why I did what I did. Another strategy I can use is the NVC method by connecting with the needs of others that are being met or not met in relation to what is happening and how we are feeling (http://www.cnvc.org/).

 

Reference

O’Hair, D., Wiemann, M., Mullin, D. I., & Teven, J.  (2015). Real communication (3rd. ed). New York: Bedford/St. Martin’s.

The Center for Nonviolent Communication. (n.d.). The center for nonviolent communication. Retrieved from http://www.cnvc.org/

Who Am I as a Communicator?

It surprised me that my husband got me down pack when it comes to communication. He knows me better then I know myself. He knows that I am uncomfortable when I have to communicate at times like when we have a disagreement I shut down. I learned from the reading this week that we can improve our perceptions if we are thoughtful when we seek explanations (O’Hair, Wiemann, Mullin, and Teven, 2015). When evaluating others we should take the time and think through what you see and it can help reduce your perceptions. I also learned that we should look beyond first impressions (O’Hair, Wiemann, Mullin, and Teven, 2015). When relying on the first impressions it can cause you to make wrong conclusions and pass judgement. It’s best to go further past the first impressions talk to the person and get to know more about them.

Reference

O’Hair, D., Wiemann, M., Mullin, D. I., & Teven, J.  (2015). Real communication (3rd. ed). New York: Bedford/St. Martin’s.

Communication and Culture

Everyone I communicate with I communicate differently. When I am communicating with my friends I use slang, symbols, text messages, and I may use profanity from time to time. When I’m communicating with my colleagues at work and at different community functions I will use a high language which is more formal and professional. When I’m with different cultures I am formal until I began communicating with them more and I get to know them more. When it comes to a person’s culture you have to really be careful not to say things that may be hurtful. When communicating with others you can learn their culture.

By learning and understand a person’s culture I can communicate with them better. When we communicate with others we need to make sure we don’t perceive them in a negative way before getting to know them and their point of your behavior and others when communicating (O’Hair, Wiemann, Mullin, and Teven, 2015). When communicating listening is very important so that you can hear what others are saying that you can respond appropriately.

Reference

O’Hair, D., Wiemann, M., Mullin, D. I., & Teven, J.  (2015). Real communication (3rd. ed). New York: Bedford/St. Martin’s.

Communication Skills

I watched the show “Night Court.” I don’t usually watch this show because it’s so old but I decided to watch it anyway. When I watched the show the first time I have the volume on mute so that I could watch how the characters communicate in a nonverbal manner. The characters seem as if they are all friends instead of colleagues. It looked like the judge was liked by everyone. The way everyone in the court even the lawyers were acting was very unusual and not what usually happens in a court room. Every person that came to the court left happy which is very odd to me. The bailiff looks very scary and seems as if he don’t like anyone by the look on his face. His facial expression was a sad face the entire show. A woman who looked to be the court reporter looked to be in an argument with a gentleman. She would be smiling one minute and then all of a sudden when he talks to her she has an angry face. It was hard for me to know what was really going on because I couldn’t hear anything.

I watched the show again with the volume on and I was able to understand what the show was about and what everyone was actually saying. The judge whose name is Harry is new to the court and everyone was trying to find out how old he was. They had a pool going on who would get his age correct. The court reporter tried to get the judges personal file but she ended up getting his criminal file which was sealed. The judge never told them his age though.

 

Competent Communication

I thought about who I feel demonstrates competent communication and I thought about my husband. He is very laid back and quiet person, but when he speaks everyone listens. He has written a book of poems and spoke at a few venues. He is not a very talkative person. I actually tell him he is antisocial because he doesn’t talk when we go around people. When he does talk he always make what he says heard. He says he is quiet because he listens and observes what is being said and his surroundings. He communicates effectively because he listens and thinks about what he is going to say before he says anything. He always thinks of other feelings before he says anything.

When we have disagreements he says I talk too much and too fast to know what the other person is saying or feeling. This is true and I try to work on what he tells me because I want to communicate better. He tells me I need to put myself in the person shoes who I am speaking to and think about what they are saying and how they are feeling. He has taught me to communicate better because he tells me what I’m doing wrong and gives me examples of how to do it a better way.

Professional Hopes and Goals

A hope that I have when I think about working with children and families who come from diverse backgrounds is that I can teach then to love everyone regardless of who they are or where they come from. I want to help them get a better understanding and gain knowledge of the different cultures and families from different backgrounds. I want all children to be happy about who they are and where they come from.

One goal I would like to set for the early childhood field that’s related to issues of diversity, equity, and social justice is to come up with a way to train teachers on diversity. If teachers have a better understanding of diversity then all children can learn about themselves and each other together. I would like to thank each and every one of my colleagues for all their hard work this term. I enjoyed reading all the blogs and posts from my group. Thanks for being so open about your life experiences and the willingness to change. Good luck on everyone’s future classes.

Welcoming Families From Around the World

 

A child and family from Nigeria will be joining my classroom. I like to be prepared for new families that join my classroom especially if I don’t know about their culture. In order to prepare myself I will do the following:

  • I will research the family’s language and see if they know how to speak English. If they don’t I will need to get an interpreter for them.
  • I will research their culture and their country so I can know a little about them before they come to the center.
  • I will ask the parents to come visit the school before the child’s first day and ask them to bring and pictures of their family that they would like so we can hang them up in the classroom.
  • I will add materials such as dolls, play food, clothes, and books that represents their culture.
  • I will ask the parents to come visit their child’s classroom once the child starts and let them tell the class about their family culture.

All these things will help the family feel welcome and comfortable because they will hear and see things that’s familiar to them. These things can also help myself and the staff understand the family and their culture and help the family feel accepted. When you include families into the classroom setting they feel important.

The Personal Side of Bias, Prejudice, and Oppression

Many people encounter biases, prejudices, and oppression at least once in their life time. I have seen, heard and also encountered them all a few times in my life. I remember watching the television show “In the Heat of the Night” where blacks dealt with so much racism everyday. Mr. Tibbs was the lead detective of the Sparta Police Department at a time where racism was at its worst. I learned by watching this show how some Caucasians can be so bias and prejudice of a person color of their skin and they would bluntly say how they felt about them without caring how the person felt. I would ask my parents and grandparents why Caucasians treated us this way. That’s when they began explaining racism to me. Even with all the racism that occurred in this show I still enjoyed watching it and still do because I know that it isn’t real but it gives us real life stories. Back when this show was created racism still occurred openly in the United States. This show was just one of many that had racism in it.

I have read books and watched other shows that called people of color “niggas” and many other inappropriate names. The Caucasians would have black maids and all. The television shows and books showed unfairness to blacks. It made me look at Caucasians differently when I went to school and when I would see them. I am glad my parents and grandparents taught me about racism and how not all Caucasians are like what I would see on television and read in books. They are one of the reasons I have an open mind to so many things today.